Dear Shame

I will no longer allow you to use my past against me. I will no longer allow you to belittle me into thinking that I am not good enough to be used by God. It is not your decision how, when, or if God uses me to fulfill his purpose. I am worthy of God’s love and direction because he has freely given his love to me. I do not earn it, work for it, or turn my heart against it, for his love does not change according to my biblical criminal record. He loves me knowing all my sin and knowing that I am not able to keep his righteous commandment without him. Shame, you cannot lie to me anymore! He wants me!!!! He loves me!!!! He is not ashamed of me and I will not be either.




   This was the letter I wrote to my label of shame in order to remind myself and the devil of my Victory in Christ. I was able to walk in boldness after I understood some principles, so if you are dealing with this misconception please continue reading.


What is Shame

Shame is a feeling of guilt, regret or sadness that you have because you have done something wrong. The feeling of believing you have dishonored or disgraced yourself, word, or others with or without forgiveness.- (paraphrased from Webster)


Hold up! This definition is not completely bad, perhaps even natural reaction to the rollercoaster of life. Doesn’t the Holy Spirit shame us when we are guilty of an offense? No! He convicts us based on the word of God. He shows us how we have fallen short of his love and mercy. Yet, shame itself is not an ungodly thing if it allows us to understand our need for a Savior. Then this type of shame has led us to the Lord where he convicts and gives us the opportunity to repent so we can be forgiven and given direction. Shame shouldn’t make us belittle ourselves, hurt others, or act in anyway besides love. When your shame has gotten great enough for you to decide God can’t love you, then we are walking in ungodly shame.

I walked in shame for many years over my depression and my mental stability. I didn’t seek help because I didn’t want others to know I had this problem. When I got the nerve to cry out to someone, I was met with opposition, anger, and denial which sent me into a deeper hole of depression. I was not released from my issue of shame until God showed me he was unashamed in me. This freedom allowed me to walk unashamed of my past according to his word.

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So how can we become unashamed?

Hebrews 12:2

“Looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God”.


In order for us to walk without shame we must model our actions after Jesus. For he endured, despised, and sat in the promises of his Father.



Reference Scriptures- Zephaniah 3:19…Psalm 25:1-22……Psalm 3:3….Psalm 34: 3-5….Luke 22:42

  1. Endure

In the scripture in Hebrew 12:2 endures is the Greek word hyoimeno which means to remain under the load and persevere. You have to be able to endure the process and the circumstance if you have prayed for guidance and the situation does not completely change.

   Luke 22:42

“Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”

Matthew 7:13

“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.

In both of these, he explains that following what the Lord is calling you to do is not easy, but you must be willing to be endure once you have prayed for wisdom toward the items of your shame. The bible tells in

James 1:4

“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

You can be unashamed if you ask God for the guidance and direction.

                                Here is a prayer for guidance

Heavenly Father, thank You for Your guidance. Forgive me for getting ahead of Your plans, and help me know when to stop and listen for Your direction. Your ways are perfect, Lord. Thank You for offering gentle grace. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.


Through the endurance we learn things about Christ. Through the endurance he positions us to walk into the dimension of our purpose and fulfil the work of Christ. We will always have various trials throughout our life. Shame is a trial in life if you are willing to trust it with him. For the word tells us that


‘No weapon formed against us shall prosper” and “you will walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will no fear for you are with me” that means they had to endure the process, but the trial will not start the manifestation of the works of God if you cannot be preserved through it. If Christ didn’t endure the cross then the promise of a Savior couldn’t be fulfilled.

Again, we must be willing to endure through pain, fear, and be obedient. Your obedience shows Christ that his love is enough to cover any shame that limits who we think we are. Your faithfulness will be rewarded.

    1 Peter 5:10

” After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.”

  1. Despise

Despise…… Why would Jesus hate the shame? I thought of myself. If I hate something, I have regret or resentment about the situation. However, the Greek word yet again brings a new light. Despise in the Greek means thinking a little of, seeing as insignificant, and esteem lightly.  When you have biblical despise you let the shame and the people attached have little to no control on your process. Jesus didn’t let their word change what he committed to do, even the ones whom he called “friend”. Yes, sometimes your nay sayers are the people closest you. How do you do this when it’s your Mother, Father, Husband, Wife, Best friend or other close family or friend.

You have to focus on the obedience, the goal, and the reward understanding that they will mock you for your decision.

Matthew 27:29

                    29 And when they had platted a crown of thorns, they put it upon his head, and a reed in his right hand: and they bowed the knee before him, and mocked him, saying, Hail, King of the Jews! 30 And they spit upon him, and took the reed, and smote him on the head.


He kept his mind on the Father. He looked towards the hills from which cometh his help. His destiny was more important than his current situation. Your healing, progress, and purpose must be more important than the likes, smiles, or words of others. Well that’s easy to say, It was Jesus. Yes, but even Jesus wanted his cup to be removed and was truly nervous. Remember, he was sweating blood yet he did it anyway.  You must be willing to move, if you don’t the Lord cannot help you remove the shame. You have to be willing to sacrifice. Jesus still had to endure the cross, he had to endure the mocking, but he didn’t let it stop him. For he knew he would be able to sit in his reward and know that the Lord was proud of his obedience.

  1. Sit

Hebrews 12:2

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.

After you have endured the process and esteem lightly the views of others regarding your shame, you will be able to rest in the power of the Almighty God. His rest is where you will find his peace and joy for yourself because his presence confirms his love for you and releases the power of the shame. As he releases this power, you must be able to sit.

  Psalms 110:1

David. A psalm. The LORD says to my lord: “Sit at my right hand until I make your enemies a footstool for your feet.”

The Lord wants us to stay close and remain still in his power and authority until he has closed the mouth of all who spoke against your process and obedience. In this verse, the Lord calls us to stay still and not move until his has cleared the path in a way that your nay sayers will elevate your position.

Shouldn’t we always sit in the power of the Lord? Yes, but you can usually move in his power. You must be able to sit and remain focus. So I don’t move toward the promise? Yes, but your moves are between you and the Lord dwelling in the secret place. When you are seated at your job, no one can see what you are doing unless they are in your office, room, cubical or presence. In the secret place no one is invited unless the Lord brings them in. Can you work in your office? Yes, but you can’t leave your office unless told to by the Lord.

   Psalm 91:1

Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.

In the secret place of rest, the Lord will give you the strength to step over your enemies. You will be restored, refreshed, and renewed. He will also give you further instruction in the secret place.

Psalm 16:7-8 –

“I will praise the LORD, who counsels me; even at night my heart instructs me. I keep my eyes always on the LORD. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken.”

Psalms 32: 7-8

7)You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. 8) I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.


Once you have seated yourself at the right hand of the Father, in the secret place, you will be able to walk unashamed and full of purpose.


       I am living unashamed of my past !!! Are you willing to join me??  

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